Facing and Overcoming Rejection in Your Job Search

Facing and Overcoming Rejection in Your Job Search

It's easy to think of rejection as losing or experiencing failure. Before I changed my beliefs about rejection, I recall my body reacting the same way after not not being invited to interview or not getting an offer for a job that I really wanted. Gut punch!

When considering rejection, we have two options when searching for our next role.

  1. Accept rejection as part of the process. Put yourself "out there" -- continuing to network and to search for a great new job.
     
  2. Let the fear of rejection block you from progress. Fear keeps you from reaching out, meeting others, or applying for new roles, so you stay in your current situation for as long as your current employer wants to pay you.

Confidence Building Secrets from the Military

Confidence Building Secrets from the Military

I was just starting my four-hour shift as the Engineering Officer of the Watch on the USS Constellation, an aircraft carrier with a propulsion system capable of producing well over 200,000 horsepower.

Someone reported, "Hot line shaft bearing, stopping, and locking the number 3 shaft." The ship was going to have additional damage and prolonged inoperability unless effective action was taken immediately. Yikes! An aircraft carrier travels as part of a large group of ships with a mission that means a schedule and tasks to accomplish in a specific time frame. Being in port longer than needed to replace extra components of the shaft was not an option. 

I had not yet taken responsibility for the shift, and protocol would have allowed me to let the other person handle the emergency. But, I knew exactly how to respond to this engineering casualty, and I was ready to take action.

I was confident, and I took over.

Gain Control of Your Job Search

Gain Control of Your Job Search

Imagine what it’s like to be in control of your job search, where you don’t feel like the days are wasting away and you’re not making progress.

Having the right systems in place can help you feel like you’re in control. When we feel like we’re in control, we actually do gain more control, and we are more confident about our situation. When we are more confident, we are more successful.

It’s possible to regain control. Here are seven tips to help you regain comfort in your job search activities.

Discover How to Prepare for your Interview

Discover How to Prepare for your Interview

In the past before an interview, I used to search online for common interview questions, read a few articles, tell myself that I knew the answers, had done the research on the company, reviewed my success stories, and was ready for the interview. 

My confidence about my accomplishments and ability to build rapport allowed me to be somewhat dismissive toward interviews. In reflecting about the offers I did not receive, I realized I was "winging it" in job interviews. Not a good idea. So, I changed my approach, as described below, and succeeded.

Roadmap to Building Job Interview Confidence: Part 1 (Mindset)

Roadmap to Building Job Interview Confidence: Part 1 (Mindset)

What will it take for you to feel more confident in your next interview? By developing the right mindset before your next interview, you can feel more confident walking in. This will help ease some of the jitters you may typically have.

Although people will respond differently, using a road map and taking positive steps will help you increase your confidence just as I was able to increase mine.

5 Ways to Restore Your Confidence After a Bad Work Experience

5 Ways to Restore Your Confidence After a Bad Work Experience

I know first-hand how tough it can be to recover from a blow to confidence. After a bad experience with a client, I felt like I needed to prove myself. Fortunately, I had a lot of great work experiences where I knew I was a valuable team member and leader. I was able to put the bad experience in perspective and not let my confidence sink too low. Regardless, we can still get rattled.

Here are the actions I took to restore my confidence.

  1. I took accountability for how I contributed to the situation. ...

Five Ways Introverts Can Gain More Confidence When Networking

Five Ways Introverts Can Gain More Confidence When Networking

Networking is a great way to meet people and develop mutually beneficial relationships where you can help achieve each other’s goals. Although only mildly introverted, I used to find networking events exhausting. I felt uncomfortable approaching others and insincere because I always felt like I was being pushy. I didn’t make great connections. I realized my approach to networking was wrong.

Since following the four steps below, I have found networking easier and I am developing stronger relationships. I better connect people and provide more value to my network.

Overcome Self-limiting Beliefs To Achieve Your Goals

Overcome Self-limiting Beliefs To Achieve Your Goals

If you ask someone what their limiting beliefs are, they probably won’t know. This may even apply to you. I recently became aware of a limiting belief that has been holding me back. This belief was that after I was done working closely with people, I wouldn’t need to keep the relationship relevant. I think this belief was created when I moved around every three to five years as a child. It was always easy for me to make new friends, but when I moved it was hard for me to stay in touch. This behavior was further engrained when I was in the Navy and I changed jobs every two years. I never saw the need to stay in touch.

After a recent college reunion, I have learned how my beliefs have limited me and I'm taking action to correct this to become a better connector and provide more value to those I want to maintain relationships with.

Consider these four steps to help you overcome your self-limiting beliefs.